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Events => Old School Series Racing => Topic started by: sonic-1 on September 29, 2008, 12:34 PM
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after attendin southern champs yesturday n havin huge aguments with wife im goin to have to knock racing on the head :'(
yer have all been great n very welcoming to me, n have made some realy good mates. but kids n wife have to come first :'(
im keepin my bikes for the mo as i hope she might chill , and i realy like em
but if she still has a downer on it in a few month then im goin to have to sell em
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trade her in for a new one :daumenhoch:
Serious: family first and for that you have a thumbs up from me and more importantly you wife (hopefully)
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Sorry to hear that mate, really sorry especially when I start racing again as I will BE LAST :angel:
Hope she mellows mate :daumenhoch:
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Sorry to hear that Sonic as you're a good bloke and always have a big smile on your face at the races I've seen you at.
I know what you mean about family coming first, but hopefully a compromise can be reached, cos a life where you do everything to make other people happy at the expense of occasionally doing stuff that makes you happy doesn't sound very fair.
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Sorry to hear that Sonic as you're a good bloke and always have a big smile on your face at the races I've seen you at.
I know what you mean about family coming first, but hopefully a compromise can be reached, cos a life where you do everything to make other people happy at the expense of occasionally doing stuff that makes you happy doesn't sound very fair.
ditto mate, Russ it wasn't so long ago we had a whole other discussion about direction of life, dont give up everything you love :'(
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Quick lime or hungry pigs, you know it makes sense. ;)
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Russ
I'm so sorry to hear that, I reiterate what the others have said, you have been a joy to race this year and always with a smile on your face and i still feel really guilty about having a go at you yesterday just for getting excited about Nikki doing so well if it was in the final and we couldnt hear the gate over your voice then maybe that would have warranted my reaction but you didnt deserve both barrells form me, so again i truly apologise.
Maybe just stick to Hersden if she cools down, its a shame she reacts like this because we were late yesterday but again i totally understand and agree Family must come first.
Hope to see you smiling again next year.
(oh and we need to finish our conversation about police brutality!! >:D)
Crooch
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Dont wanna sound like a dick Russ, but you only have a limited time in which you are fit-willing-and able to do the things in which you love. If you give up now then you may regret that decision when you are not fit-willing-and able to have a choice.
I understand family commitments as i have 4 kids myself, but can you not talk her round on the basis that this aint permanent and there is a lot of life left after you can no longer ride !!!
I have recently started to ride my mx bike again after 6-7 years away, it aint ideal for my family but my argument is that in 10 years time i will be even more fooking useless than i am now, they can have all my time then :LolLolLolLol: but on a serious note is there not a "in moderation" argument you can have before throwing in the towel ?
We have one life and its shit enough with out giving up the things it makes living worth while for :daumenhoch:
Best of luck dude ;)
Paul :Great_Britain:
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wow sh1te news rearly,no time for something you enjoy bad news bud.
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Russ,
Look how happy you are in this pic mate
(http://www.radbmx.co.uk/archive/albums/bb131/webdawgbmx/PubQP.jpg)
I know the last few months have been tough for you and the Mrs and i understand your motivation and dedication to rectify things but relationships are about understanding each other and having your own time and interests that allow you to grow as individuals and to keep the relationship on track. (you cant all be married to the Queen who nags you to go to races :2funny: :2funny:)
You rarely race outside of Hersden, give or take the odd Daggers or Herne Bay race, i dont think you're asking too much mate, it aint like you're pissing money up the wall, out chasing loose women or filling your nostrils with bolivian.
In the nicest possible way mate and dont take offence
GET A FOOKIN GRIP
It wasn't too long ago that we as your mates were trying to help you in troubled times, dont throw that away by losing your identity and your buds :tickedoff: :tickedoff:
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Sad news.
Also, the northern maestro that is known nationally, Chris-B is also now retired from the sport. Speaking to him at the Preston meet yesterday, he confessed; "Can do without the before race stresses", and "I'm going to give you lads a chance at some glory".
Suppose it will come to us all sooner or later. :daumenhoch:
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Sad news.
Also, the northern maestro that is known nationally, Chris-B is also now retired from the sport. Speaking to him at the Preston meet yesterday, he confessed; "Can do without the before race stresses", and "I'm going to give you lads a chance at some glory".
Suppose it will come to us all sooner or later. :daumenhoch:
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You know my views mate as I mentioned them at length to you on the phone earlier but I whole heartedly back what Nikki says. :daumenhoch:
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Chin up mate, wife and kids :4_17_5:
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WHAT THE FOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOK IS THIS? :knuppel2: :2gunsfiring_v1: :tickedoff: >:(
Sonic mate you aint going nowhere sunshine, after all the fun we've all had together you cant just disappear into the sunset, you work hard for a living mate, you have a familly and respo........ res...........respons........... oh fook it you know what I mean but we need to have an outlet in life too mate, something we can do so we can forget about all the s**t going on in our lives, in our house ive got BMX and the missis has got netball, it doesnt take up all out time but it makes so much difference, im sure your missis must have something she's interested in dude :daumenhoch:
Dont go mate :-[
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Only just stumbled on this thread Russ and am gutted for you. I can imagine what you're going through and how this seems to be the only solution to keeping peace in the household. Don't do anything rash and certainly hold fire on the bikes as things might settle down and your wife will let you come out to play next year. Concentrate on the decorating, do the retail-therapy bit with her, tidy up the garden and when there's nothing left on the "jobs to do" list just maybe you'll get a reprise. It won't be the same at Hersden without the competition to see who comes last; just leaves me and Spike371 to battle it out, especially now my Matt's buggered off to Uni. Keep in touch. Missing you already. Humps
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thanks for all the support guys n mrs ratty , but just get sick of it bein thrown at me at every tiff , it was same with motorcycle racin but that did drive me into debt even with a sponsor so gave that up to !!!!!! but as she pointed out atleast i was good at motorcycle racin!!!!!!!
so i will concentrate on spendin time with the kids will still ride my bikes but racin is out , got to limit my time on here to as that has been another issue !!!!!!! :'( can get here when shes out or in bed so will be about for chatter n piss takin :daumenhoch:
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Russ please don't take offense at this, but it doesn't sound like much of a partnership to me, sorry mate :(
Bru :daumenhoch:
mmmm yer do have a point but after the the agro iv been through im keepin my head down n tryin with the yes dear n no dear in the right places !!!!!!! shit maby but things might get better in time :'(
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sack her russ. :LolLolLolLol:
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Shag her mum :daumenhoch:
That'l teach her a bit of respect :LolLolLolLol:
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You haven't seen her Mum. :LolLolLolLol:
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Gutted for you Russ, just come back from a conference to find this.
Brings tears to my eyes, cos as you well know i'm in the same situation, and wouldn't expect it to be too long before i get that cruel hand of cards dealt to me too. Only thing keeping me going is my lad racing.
But were all alike, obsessive, can't be helped we love it too much, and if they don't understand then harsh decisions have to be made.....not easy!!! I know my end decision would have to be the same as yours :'(
Anyhow, if your not about, i can't race, your the guy that gives me confidence, helps me to believe in myself. With out you there Russ i'm just gonna have to fill your place in the racing order.
Women, bain of our lives!!! Fook it lets get a bmx batchelor pad, and leave em to it. But please no dry bumming :LolLolLolLol:
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My Ex Girlfriend always stopped me doing the stuff I loved,drinking,mates,etc so after five years sacked her off and got a little hotty 12 years her junior who takes a real interest in my bikes,loves to party and always has a smile on her chops and we have been together over a year now.
Obviously with kids involved its a different ball game..but surely stopping you doing something you love is not going to benefit any of you.....and will probably come to a sour ending...communicate and compromise :daumenhoch:
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russ
i only managed to make hersden once and have only met you once i gotta say your a great fella always smiling and enjoyed listening about your motorbike days
old skool needs ya fella tell your mrs your going college to learn something and come roll around with us we wont tell her ;)
be gutted if you give it up fella
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Russ, I hope she does see the good side of what you do, it keeps you fit, out of trouble, away from loose women and above all gives you a buzz and a smile.
I too went through similar sh1t and you know what I did, I hope it doesnt come to that for you but relationships are about sharing and understanding your partner. I hope you do resolve it amicably, otherwise let me know your address and I will send you my pipe and some comfy slippers.
Good luck mate, hope it works out for you :daumenhoch:
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Sod that mate,yeah your kids come first but i would never give something up you love because of your wife!
There must be a compromise?Id no way stop riding for anyone!!
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I'm sorry to say I've not met you, but you sound like a top lad and I hate hearing stories like this as it sounds a very difficult situation (although someone did mention that there may be more to this than we know)
Find a compromise - one must be there - you only live once and you've got to keep a few pleasures in life and if you love Racing as much as the photo and the comments seem to suggest then you'll miss it dearly and in 10-20 years you'll look back and think if only I got a few more years out of it...
If she's on your back now - will that change / stop because you've done this for her or will she just find something else to get on your back about??
Life is for living - you don't get dressed up for nothing!!!
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All the best Russ and hope everything works out on the domestic front.
Why the fook do we all have to grow up and get lumbered with commitments and responsibilities? :idiot2:
Life was so much simpler in the 80s.
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Sad news.
Also, the northern maestro that is known nationally, Chris-B is also now retired from the sport. Speaking to him at the Preston meet yesterday, he confessed; "Can do without the before race stresses", and "I'm going to give you lads a chance at some glory".
Suppose it will come to us all sooner or later. :daumenhoch:
What a load of crap - since when has OS racing involved ''before race stresses''.
Chris-B is a stress head, always has been. He needs to lighten up and have a laugh just like the NE guys.
I stood with DumDare, BrenBurgundy and OrgazDaz and praised them for their fun attitudes at Preston and everywhere else they race. I know that if I raced it would be tongue in cheek and for the hell of it.
FFS most of us are fast approaching 40! What else is there to do when you're rideing a little kids bike?
Chris-B needs to pick up his dummy and get back on the track and enjoy it for what it is. Fun. :)
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Sad news.
Also, the northern maestro that is known nationally, Chris-B is also now retired from the sport. Speaking to him at the Preston meet yesterday, he confessed; "Can do without the before race stresses", and "I'm going to give you lads a chance at some glory".
Suppose it will come to us all sooner or later. :daumenhoch:
What a load of crap - since when has OS racing involved ''before race stresses''.
Chris-B is a stress head, always has been. He needs to lighten up and have a laugh just like the NE guys.
I stood with DumDare, BrenBurgundy and OrgazDaz and praised them for their fun attitudes at Preston and everywhere else they race. I know that if I raced it would be tongue in cheek and for the hell of it.
FFS most of us are fast approaching 40! What else is there to do when you're rideing a little kids bike?
Chris-B needs to pick up his dummy and get back on the track and enjoy it for what it is. Fun. :)
Well said.
Racing is an excuse for us to have a bit of me time without all the stresses and tribulations of normal adult life.
We go to the track and we chew the fat and have a bit of banter.
If your wife doesn't like it then you've got the wrong wife. ;)
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Never beat around the bush Si :LolLolLolLol:
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If I had a bigger house I'd probably sell the wife and buy a few more bikes. She is a lucky woman indeed. ::)
Agree that racing shouldn't be a stress, I'd clean up every time if I took it seriously but life's too short. ;D
Shame about this Russ, it really is.
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:'( :'( :'( :'( a very sad day when a realy good mate is not aloud to enjoy a day out with his friend s .cant you get the kids in to bikes try to get her in to it
i will miss you from sherine take care be good stay true to your self ,
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Hmmm... I've always been a great believer in if someone loves you then they support you in whatever gives you joy, or in the absence of that they turn a blind eye. In all honesty and reading between the lines it looks like you care for your wife more than she does for you. whether you are emotionally beaten up at the track by her, or emotionally held to ransom by being 'forced' to stay at home the end result is the same, and it isnt pretty.
This isnt healthy for you.
Its time to stand up, stop arguing a pointless position and look at what you have...The BMX or not debate is just an issue in something bigger. If it wasnt BMX I suspect it would be something else and how long before you couldnt fart without permission >:D
Time to sort this woman out before she drives you to an early grave.
Best of luck.
Ray.
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Hmmm... I've always been a great believer in if someone loves you then they support you in whatever gives you joy, or in the absence of that they turn a blind eye. In all honesty and reading between the lines it looks like you care for your wife more than she does for you. whether you are emotionally beaten up at the track by her, or emotionally held to ransom by being 'forced' to stay at home the end result is the same, and it isnt pretty.
This isnt healthy for you.
Its time to stand up, stop arguing a pointless position and look at what you have...The BMX or not debate is just an issue in something bigger. If it wasnt BMX I suspect it would be something else and how long before you couldnt fart without permission >:D
Time to sort this woman out before she drives you to an early grave.
Best of luck.
Ray.
mmmmm can see what yer sayin but at end of the day iv been a bit of a selfish twunt in the past wanderin off motorcycle racin away for her birthday 5 years runnin !!!! well it was an international where i was part of the works team ;D
yer dont realise what kinda toll it take s on yer relationship till yer finaly get told !!!! n i got right told only a few month ago !!!
the wife is the type who dont say till its a prob n then im the last one to hear it :'( so as soon as bmx racin got to be a prob n she had a go about it , i had to listen n knock it on the head , as much as i have a laugh n enjoy it i much more enjoy livin with my kids n bein there at 3 in morning when they are ill n stuff which i prob wouldnt be if we split , so to keep the peace n to try i have to make sacrafices im cool with that ;)
im hopein at some point things will chill n i can play on my bikes a little will just have to wait n see
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i could understand if you'd had a string of injuries that kept you off work and from joining in at home, other than that, don't let you wife tell you what to do. Does she do what you tell her? There would have to be a serious and proper reason to stop doing what hobby i liked, not just because her indoors says so. Don't know the in's and out's of your relationship but something is rotten in denmark from where i'm standing.
women, can't live with them
what? you were expecting more?
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well my race bike is gone now to pay a bill !!!!! so no more racin for me this year , how ever my daughter says she wants to try racin :) so mght just get to be at a few :)
anyone fancy a nice dyno compe or a 2006 haro sport in the box ???????? still need cash
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Might bloody join ya sonic............OS anyway, anyone got a cruiser they wanna sell? :LolLolLolLol:
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Might bloody join ya sonic............OS anyway, anyone got a cruiser they wanna sell? :LolLolLolLol:
whats up with you Sam? not a good day yesterday??
Russ Madd Dog has a floval for sale....
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Well it like this fella, at 9 sunday morning, the entire oldschool class for Peterborough was in my kitchen eating bacon sarnies, we all looked at eachother (all 3 of us) and thought WHY FOOKIN BOTHER? >:(
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an what lovely sarnies they were :smitten:
see ya sunday for some more :LolLolLolLol:
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Oh yes mate, then we can chat some more about that new "Space Hopper" class we gonna start! :LolLolLolLol:
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Well it like this fella, at 9 sunday morning, the entire oldschool class for Peterborough was in my kitchen eating bacon sarnies, we all looked at eachother (all 3 of us) and thought WHY FOOKIN BOTHER? >:(
blimey all i got was a buiscuit! look at this way sam - thats 3 more than they had last year.... just not enough of us to spread around is there...you should get on to Hooga - he's more local to your cause...
anyway the pride of Essex should be a giggle!!! Put that extra bit of rivalry into the mix!!
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I really hope there's a new influx of riders in time for next years race season because it'll be good to see som full gates out there.
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i'll deffo be competing for the coverted last place at a few in the summer :daumenhoch:
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Pickle the Daggers Regional is on the 7th Decmeber, can you get a pass if you have been at the rad bash the day before....
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i shall be away on my honeymoon Si otherwise i could've come along